Officially Old.

I realized today that I am, officially, old.

And it’s not because I turned 26 a few weeks ago (although that really doesn’t help).

It’s because I was walking around Old Time Pottery (buying 50 cent wrapping paper for Christmas… you know the usual)… when I found myself SUPER excited because I (finally!) found the exact pie plate I had been looking for for MONTHS.

This makes me old because:
1) I got this excited about a pie plate; and
2) There was a pie plate that I had actually been looking for… for MONTHS.

The pie plate in question, by the way? A cobalt blue glazed ceramic pie pan with wavy edges. So I might be old. But at least my pies will be pretty!


The Look

Okay so you’ve seen my dress, shoes, jewelry… you would think that I would have run out of things to talk about in regard to my wedding day appearance. But, you’d be wrong. There are, of course, the matters of hair and makeup. Simultaneously important (because this is, after all, the most I’ll ever be photographed in MY LIFE), and hard to commit to (not a product you can buy and be done with, but rather an “inspiration” you need to try to execute).

Anyways……….. I’ve decided! (I think!) As means of reminder… here’s me at B’s mom’s wedding a few weeks ago:

For makeup I decided on a more professional version of my basic everyday makeup. This includes a natural pink lip, flushed cheeks, black eyeliner and mascara, and gold eyeshadow. A more natural version of the eyes in the pic below, and the lips/cheeks of of “Joan” (any Mad Men fans out there?)

Little did I know that makeup was the easy part. I’ll spare you the days, weeks, MONTHS of indecision and the thousand emails between myself, my mother and my MOH, regarding my hair. At the end of the day, I’ve decided to purchase clip in hair extensions to give me some extra length (yay!) and to go for this look:

Yes, I realize that the front/back are two different people… but its pretty rare to get multiple angles of a hairstyle online… work with me!

The last step of the process is accessories. For the ceremony I’ll wear a fingertip length veil like this one:

Mine might be slightly different because my mom is actually making me a veil using the material from her own veil! How cool, right? But anyways… this is what we’re going for.

And last but not least, a headband! I’m so excited that I’m going to be a “headband bride.” I know its totally trendy right now, but whatever. I love headbands and so does B. I think he’s going to be super excited that I’m wearing one for our wedding day. I’m not 100% sure whether I’ll wear it for the ceremony, or if I’ll just slip it on after I take the veil off, but that decision can be made after my hair trial. I’m 99% on this headband, although I’ve yet to order it:

Please excuse the exceedingly creepy giant Barbie head.

And there you have it! My wedding day look, head to toe. Who knew how many decisions could be made about one’s appearance for ONE day?

The Name Game

Once upon a time I was in a long term relationship (five years) with a guy who had a terrible last name. I’m not that traditional, so I just always assumed that when we got married, I’d keep my name.

But we didn’t.

Then I met B. Who does not have a terrible last name. His last name is pleasant, somewhat ethnic, and common enough that you’ve heard it but without falling into the Smith/Jones/Miller category.

And he proposed.


I’d lived with my decision to keep my name my for years. I had two degrees with my name, a slew of school mate “colleagues” that knew me by that name… it is MY name. But…………. B wanted me to change it. To take his, because we were going to be a family. Crap. Again.

For the sake of anonymity lets pretend that my name is Jane Lyndsey Smith, and B is John Doe (creative, right?). Smith-Doe sounds kind of stupid together… and I really don’t want to inflict that on our future children.

So I thought that I would just add Doe to my name without hyphenating. My last name would be Smith Doe, full name Jane Lyndsey Smith Doe.. a mouth-full but socially I could be Jane Doe and for work I could be Jane Smith Doe and all would be well.

But its just so LONG. And unweildly… do government forms even have enough spaces? Then I thought maybe I should make Smith a second middle name rather than part of my last name…. but that really doesn’t help the length issue any more than the fact that many forms would only require middle initials.

I’ve also considered dropping the Lyndsey and substituting Smith as my new (only) middle name. Its a popular option, but I really like Lyndsey (enough to use it to blog). Plus, I’ve started a small company that runs by the name of Jane Lyndsey… ahhh that complications!

Which brings us to the traditional option… drop the Smith and go straight up Jane Lyndsey Doe. I actually like how it sounds, and I’ve really come around to the idea of being “Jane Doe.” I’m just sad to give up my last name.


to be continued… some day… when I make a decision… maybe…


I knew I’d DIY my invites from the time I got engaged. They’re a common DIY project because they’re usually relatively easy, an awesome way to save money, and (if you like crafty stuff) kind of fun to do. First I’ll show the finished product, and then show the how-to.

Note: I blurred out some of the info to protect our privacy… even though it pained me to do so after spending so much time making them pretty!

I LOVE them! So excited with how well they turned out. Oh, and if you see any typos? Don’t tell me. It’ll drive me nuts and it is too late to redo them. Thanks!

So now the how-to. These were actually super easy. Here are the tools you’ll need:
– a computer with a program like microsoft word
– a printer
– a paper cutter
– a corner rounder (if you want round corners)
– eyelet setter and eyelets
– hammer
– magazine
– glue stick
– sewing machine (if you want a tear-off RSVP)

First, design the template. I don’t know how to do any kind of graphic design, and I don’t have any programs more specialized than microsoft word, so I just made mine text-based. I started by figuring out what size envelope I wanted to use (I decided on A7, which is 5×7), and worked my way backwards from there.

This meant that the back cover and the RSVP page was 5×7, the Details page was 5×6.25, the Celebrate page was 5×5.5, and the front cover was 5×4.75. From there I just created boxes on microsoft word and typed in my text. I decided to print everything out onto 8.5×11 paper to save money and frustration trying to print on small paper.

Once the design process was over, I got to printing:

It took me two printer cartridges to do 70 invites + mistakes, but I might have used more because all of my text was blue or green (which is made with blue ink), so I really only ran out of blue. If you printed with black ink you could probably get through with one cartridge.

Next was the WORST step of the process, the cutting out. It took FOREVER. But, thank god for this thing:

If you’re planning to make invites, borrow or buy one. Do not rely on one of those little scrapbooking cutters… you’ll hate yourself and your life if you do. (I borrowed this one from work).

Once I had everything cut, I had to round all of the corners. No pictures for this, but I just used one of those little paper rounders you can buy from any craft store.

Next up was perforating the dotted line for the RSVP. I wanted it to be a tear-off postcard, so I knew I wanted to perforate it somehow. The solution was simple: I took all the thread out of my sewing machine and just sewed across the dotted line. Easy and fast!

I then assembled all of the pieces together, and punched a hole in the top left corner with my 1/4″ hole punch:

Next up was setting the eyelets, which is not as hard as you’d think. These are the tools you’ll need:

Eyelets (which come with backs), an eyelet setter, and a hammer.

Place the front part of the eyelet through the front of the invite, place the invite face-down, place the back of the eyelet over the metal that sticks through the hole, and place the eyelet setter into the hole as so:

From here, just hit with a hammer 5-10 times and the front of the eyelet will flatten over the back of the eyelet and secure it. A few notes on this process:
1- My invites were five cardstock pages thick, and this is definitely the maximum for regular 1/4″ eyelets. I think if I’d had one more page this would not have worked.

2- Take note of the surface you’re working on. It has to be hard enough that you can hammer on it, but not something that you care if it gets damaged (the eyelets are metal and will leave an impression on whatever they’re hammered onto). I placed them on top of a magazine on top of a coffee table. This gave me both the stability I needed to hammer, with a surface I didn’t care about ruining.

3- It took me about 30 invites before I really got the hang of the hammering. The trick is to hit the top of the eyelet setter hard enough. Seriously, you have to hit it hard. About 7 good whacks will flatten the eyelet out perfectly.

The last step of the process was using a glue stick to affix our name label to the front… no picture here because everyone knows what a glue stick is.

So– that is it! I still need to put stamps on the back of the RSVP cards and stuff them into envelopes, but mostly, they’re done!

Figuring out exactly what we spent on them is a little challenging because some of the supplies overlap with other projects. For example, the paper I bought only came in packages of 100. One pack of 100 of each the blue and cream cardstock was not enough, so I got two. But the leftovers will be used to make our programs and other signage. Nevertheless, I’ll post the full price of what I bought even if part of the package will be used for something else.

All of the items marked with a * below, though, are those that I have leftovers of. Using those supplies I’m able to make my programs, table numbers, signs for our faux-to-booth, guest book, and bar, and various other wedding projects.

Blue pearlescent cardstock*: $62 for 200 sheets (
Cream linen cardstock*: $32 for 200 sheets (
Champagne A7 envelopes: $28 for 100 (
Ink*: $40 for 1 cartridge (office max, I already had one cartridge at home)
Paper cutter: free (borrowed from work)
corner rounder: $6.99 (Hobby Lobby)
1/4″ hole punch: $4.99 (JoAnn Fabrics)
Eyelet setter with eyelets*: $9.99 (JoAnne Fabrics)
Sewing machine: Free (already owned it)
Glue stick*: $3.99 for two sticks (Michaels)

Grand total to make invites: $188 or $2.89 per invite

Postage for RSVP postcards: $18.20
Postage to mail invites: $39.65 (they are $0.61 to mail because they’re over 1 ounce)

Total for Invites: $245.85 or 3.78 per invite including postage

This is incredibly cheap for this type of invitations! Comparable invitations that I found online and used as inspiration were $7.50 per invite not including postage, which means I saved about $300 by DIY’ing. Worth it? I’d say so.

DIY Math…

So you’re moderately crafty and you want to save some money on your wedding? Make your own invites! Except making plain single page invites would be like, totally boring right? So you should probably come up with something really creative to do… like a 5 layer booklet held together with an eyelet. You’re only going to need like 67 invites, how time consuming could this be? A little print, cut, and assemble… no problemo.



For the record, I’m still totally glad that I’m making my own invites because
1) I have the time to do it (let it be known I’m making them about eight weeks earlier than I plan to send them because I don’t want to feel rushed)
2) they’re going to be super super cute
3) they’re going to be cheaper than buying even boring plain invites online
4) in some weird way this stuff is still kinda fun. sort of. in a “I hate this but I’m still kind of enjoying myself” way…

I’m weird.

So anyways… this easy-peasy afternoon project of mine? Here’s how its adding up:

Cards per invite: 5
Number of 8.5×11 pages printed: 140 sides + mistakes
Number of mistakes: a lot
Number of times my printer screwed up: 3
Number of ink cartridges used: 2
Number of cuts made to cut out the cards: 1,190
Number of corners rounded: 1,680
Number of blisters from corner puncher and 1/4″ hole punch: TBD
Number of hours spent thus far: 11
Number of hours to completion: estimated 6-8

So consider this a PSA… don’t DIY your own invites unless you really have the time and care enough to spend it doing this.

Next up (well… maybe not next, but soon): Invite reveal and instructions!